What Immigrant Parents Can Teach Us About Raising Good Kids
by NANCY SHUTE
U.S. NEWS & WORLD REPORT
Culture has a big effect on how parents raise children, and since 20 percent of children in the United States were born to immigrant parents,with that number expected to rise to 30 percent by 2015, those families have a big impact on American culture, too.
As a member of an immigrant family (my husband grew up in Russia), I’m intensely curious about how parents use their native culture for better or worse in raising children. The current issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, which is all about immigrant families, gives clues as to how culture affects child rearing. For instance, immigrant Chinese-American moms and dads are much better at being on the same page in their expectations for children than are European-American mothers and fathers, who vary much more in their parenting style and behavioral standards, according to research by Carol Huntsinger and Paul Jose. The Chinese-American parents present much more of a united front.
“Chinese parents have a more similar idea of how children need to be guided,” Huntsinger, a professor of education at Northern Illinois University, told me. “The European-American parents tend to have much more individual ideas and do their own thing. That’s what we emphasize in this country.” That’s for sure, I thought, thinking of my husband’s and my very different ideas on discipline, which I think comes more from American culture than from his Russian heritage.
on July 15, 2009 on 12:15 am
Hmmm, this is an interesting finding. I wonder what it says about parents from the Caribbean. What I find brings up differences between my husband and I is the fact that I was raised here and he wasn’t. I want to observe a lot of traditions (as does he), but I think some of the cultural forms of discipline are archaic and don’t work. We know a lot more about child development today than we did 30 years ago, so I think adjustments are in order.